By: John Collins
It happens all the time, men and women connect eyesight and butterflies start to flutter and nothing comes of it. There is just something that goes awry, and that can be heart wrenching for some. If you have ever been in a situation like this, or one where you’re stuck in the friend zone with someone, it’s important to figure out a few things that will help you get the guy, the right way. Too many times women assume that it is very difficult to get a man, but it is actually a lot easier than you might think. The process involves you opening up and being honest in a way that is not often seen. You’ll also need to pay attention to a few tips and tricks.
First and foremost, you’ll need to avoid having sex with him sooner than later. This is one of the biggest mistakes that women make about getting the right guy to stay. If he is not willing to wait for a short time, than they are not the one. There is no predetermined waiting period, but it’s definitely not something that you should rush in for. Trust your instincts care and let him wait. You’ll find that the relationship that you will start to develop is way more important than that physical option that can be fleeting at times.
The second thing that you’ll want to do is pay close attention to what he says, how he says it and what he really means. Many times women jump to conclusions, or read the wrong signals and they end up getting upset for nothing. Other times they are being told the things they want to hear, and not really feeling the heart to see if it’s all true. You’ll have to really pay close attention to what is being said, what stories are told, and how the conversations develop. If you pay close attention you will be able to find tells in the way they conduct themselves, and if you are really vigilant you’ll even catch them if they have wandering eyes or anything along those lines.
For the women that really want to get the guy, make sure that you exhibit your best foot forward. Sometimes women try too hard to impress and turn on a “fake” personality in order to appease what they presume a man wants. Instead of going that route, make sure that above all else you’re putting yourself up front. Be honest, speak from the heart, and try not to be so quick to think about what they may “want” to hear. You’ll find that it’s far easier to be relaxed, and just be yourself.
If you pay attention to the preceding, you’ll find a good man, you’ll keep him, and the wedding bells will sound in no time. If you do not follow the options, you will end up like many others, single, and frustrated. The above are just some easy ways to make matters better, and get the man of your dreams, keep them in mind.
The question that gets every man on his knees is, “Will you marry me?”
Well, maybe not every man.
Korbel Champagne found in its 2003 survey that almost one in three (31 percent) Americans know a woman who has proposed marriage to a man, according to The Examiner. This means that some of these women got down on one knee, while their boyfriends stood in amazement.
A new study released in January 2013 from the University of California – Santa Cruz says otherwise, according to MSN Living. Students at this small liberal arts college on the west coast hold some major traditional views on marriage proposals with two-thirds of participants saying the man should “definitely” be the one to propose marriage in a relationship. Surprisingly, only 2.8 percent of women said they “kind of” want to do the proposing.
So, ladies: Are you waiting for the perfect romantic proposal to appear at your feet? Or are you with the 2.8 percent of women who are plotting to ask their man for his hand in marriage?
While You Wait
Chivalry is at the top of many women’s list(s) to describe their dream husband. So it’s only natural that she would want her dream date to escort her to a tropical island with blue water silhouetting his beautiful proposal, which he planned ahead of time on his own. Some refer to this common daydream as “benevolent sexism” or what LiveScience describes as, “attitudes that women should be cherished, protected and given special treatment.”
As a woman, it is hard to argue that statement. A relationship that entitles a woman to special treatment and everlasting love does not come around every day.
And traditionally, yes, the man gets down on one knee and asks for the woman’s hand in marriage. But as women continue to assume new leadership roles in the professional world, they also can’t help but wonder…is it time for women to pop the question?
Who Wears The Pants?
Jason R. Rich, author of “Will You Marry Me? Popping the Question with Romance and Style,” says that it doesn’t matter who proposes. He told PR Newswire that “understanding the expectations and dreams of the person you’re proposing to, and taking them into consideration during the planning process is the first step in bringing a perfect proposal to life.”
As a result, both the man and the woman can wear the pants in the relationship if they understand each other’s needs and aspirations.
So what’s romantic about that?
On a personal note, let me paint you a picture. On a warm summer night, my boyfriend and I cuddled in bed and he whispered, “Have you ever thought what it would be like if we got married?” I froze and made a silly face before revealing that I had given it quite a bit of thought. After a few months of late-night talks about our future log cabin in the woods, on a chilly autumn night I walked into my boyfriend’s room, held his hand, and said, “Will you marry me?”
We both stayed standing for a moment (no one got down on one knee). He said yes and giggled and took my hand, leading me up the stairs to tell his parents the good news. The next night, he popped the perfect heirloom ring open from its box in front of my parents.
The romance is in planning together.
About the Author
Sienna Mae Heath is a freelance journalist living in Pennsylvania. Her work has been published regularly in The Express-Times since January 2012 on topics such as lifestyles, the arts, education, organic living, and world news. She holds a Bachelor of Arts in English from Moravian College.
Men are constantly trying to come up with new and unique ways of proposing to their girl friends and not wanting to do something that has been done a thousand times before it’s getting a bit difficult! So here are a few ideas for you to think about when it comes to that once in a lifetime special occasion, remember it’s something she will always remember and think back on and will tell your children and grandchildren one day!
A canoe ride is always romantic, add a sapling tree, a little island and a ring and you have the makings of a very romantic proposal! Tie the ring to one of the branches of the tree and have it in a bag so your girls doesn’t see, take a slow canoe ride out to the island and dig a spot to plant the tree, have her take the tree out of the bag to plant, when she does she will see the ring, you can then, in your own words ask her to marry you, adding that you will visit “your tree” every year in memory of your engagement and as the tree grows so will your love.
A picnic proposal can be wonderful too!! If you can set it up ahead of time you can have the ring strategically placed somewhere nearby and as you talk a nice casual walk you can act as if you have come upon something and do one of those “wow, look at that” type of maneuvers and have her “find” it, then down on your knee you go and surprised she will be However you choose to do it, as long as it is special for the both of you it will be something you can tell over and over again and each time it will bring a smile to your face and quite possibly a tear to her eye.